Self-Acceptance Coaching with John
Hi, my name is John and I’m excited to be associated with Thriving Autistic.
I work as a life coach helping people who feel like outsiders find self-acceptance and happiness.
I am relatable rather than aspirational. I am autistic and during my life I have experienced negative thoughts, gay conversion therapy, coeliac disease, and back surgery. I am also the only British winner of the “International Mr Leather” contest in Chicago and had a ten-year career as a stand-up comedian which has taken me around the world.
I am passionate about helping people, especially those who feel like an outsider. You may feel that way because of your gender or sexuality, neurodiversity, health diagnosis or just a feeling of “not fitting in”. I work online with English-speaking clients anywhere in the world, providing a space where you can talk, think and be heard without judgement.
My work includes helping newly diagnosed autistic folk work out what that means for them, discovering where masking ends and you begin, and how to change your life to better fit your neurology.
I have helped clients discover who they are, what their passions are, find their voice, achieve goals, accept themselves, grow in confidence, be happier and change their lives.
You are welcome to wear dark glasses during calls, have the camera turned off, switch to text chat, fidget, info-dump or anything else that will make you feel more comfortable.
POST DIAGNOSIS SUPPORT
These sessions are entirely for your benefit. Some clients turn up and want to talk for an hour to help process their thoughts. Others are silent and want me to do all the talking. Some are prepared and bring questions. Others have no idea what to talk about and would like me to lead. Some just want a conversation with another autistic person so they can relax and be themselves.
Common topics which come up:
· How to recover from burnout
· Ways to reduce anxiety
· Where does masking end and I begin?
· Should I disclose I’m autistic to other people?
· Now I’ve found out that I’m autistic … what’s next?
I can help find the answers that are right for you.
If you would like to book your post-diagnostic session with me, email me at email@example.com
“I’m so grateful to John. I really don’t know if I’d have been able to fully accept my autistic self without his support. He inspired me in a multitude of ways. Most importantly, to reach out for what I want in life, rather than just accept my place in it. For the first time in decades, I feel like I’m going to be okay, I’m happy, and I finally feel like I have a better idea of what will continue to make me happy going forward. I say without hyperbole, John has inspired me more than anyone else ever has – for that, I can’t thank him enough!” – Ray
“What I’m most grateful to John for is his unwavering respect and support for my needs and boundaries. He helped and encouraged me in finding what works for me specifically, and was staunchly on my side through an extremely difficult stretch of my life after my late diagnosis and a debilitating autistic burnout.” – Salla
“I confidently recommend John Pendal for anyone seeking some support during an autism diagnosis discovery journey. My own time post diagnosis was turbulent and included a revision of a lifetime of social ‘frictions’, broken relationships, illnesses, times of depression and anxiety. Thankfully John’s many skills include patience, great communications, empathy, problem solving and explaining autism differences as differences and not failings. We made some sense of the past and made adjustments for my future life, all of my own design. This is the coach and process I needed at the time I needed it, and I would recommend him to others who need autism acceptance for better lifetimes ahead.” – John
QUALIFICATIONS & MEMBERSHIPS:
• Accredited coach with Animas Centre for Coaching
• FAA Level 2 Award in First Aid for Mental Health
• FAA Level 3 Award in Supervising First Aid for Mental Health
• Member of the International Coaching Federation